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The Upside of Chronic Pain

I know the title of this post seems like an oxymoron, but there really have been some positive outcomes of my struggles to function in spite of having pain as my constant companion. The reason I am writing this is because I just happen to love my life, and I wouldn't trade any of the really good things for less pain.
As a result of my chronic pain, I have had to look in the right places for joy and happiness. My spiritual life has been a lifeline. I would not have seen the necessity of growing spiritually if everything always went right and I never had pain. It gave me a different perspective on a lot of things.
As a result of the disability, my children learned to be independent and compassionate. They impress me so often because they are courageous, loyal, intelligent, capable, helpful and thoughtful. They make me laugh at surprising times. They offer help before I ask, and give me hugs when I am in tears. Everyone who meets them tells me how great my kids are. They have learned many skills that amaze my friends. A few weeks ago, my daughter replaced a part on our washer!
As a result of my chronic pain, I have learned to slow down and enjoy life a moment at a time; I have learned to balance rest and activity; to stop and pay closer attention to what my kids are saying and doing. I celebrate small victories with friends and family, and I am truly happy for others.
I also have had the joy of being encouraged by others who have walked this path ahead of me. I have been able to encourage others along the way.
This is the positive outlook I bring to each day, and even when I am in tears from the pain, I am so glad I have my husband, my children, my home, my friends, and my church family. Life is good even when it is a struggle!

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